Narcissism: What They Portray Outside Isn’t The Same Behind Closed Doors
Did you ever find yourself caught in a complex situation of human behavior, trying to decipher the enigmatic personality traits of someone close to you? Could they be introverted, content in their solitude, or maybe they possibly be a covert narcissist, who are skilled in the art of manipulation? Let’s understand them closely and the intriguing nuances between these two personality types, their behaviors, and how to go about in life as we have such encounters.
Introverted Soul
We all must have at least one person in mind who prefers solitude over social gatherings, cherishes introspection, draws energy from within, or just likes being by themselves. Generally, these people are called introverts. Introverts tend to recharge their mental and emotional batteries by retreating into their inner worlds. While it might appear to us as if they are reserved and quiet in social settings, introverts possess a wealth of insights and perspectives waiting to be shared.
You’ll notice that introverts choose deep talks over casual talk when you’re with them and once they get comfortable with you. They are observant and thoughtful listeners, offering genuine ideas and perspectives. Their reflective nature allows them to be empathetic, understanding, and often excellent at providing emotional support. While they may not be the life of the party, their quiet presence can bring a feeling of calm and wisdom to any situation.
The Covert Narcissist
Covert narcissists are people who appear charming, kind, and even self-effacing on the surface, making it challenging to recognize their true ulterior motives. They do possess an inflated sense of self-importance but camouflage it with a seemingly empathetic and self-effacing demeanor. They also do a pretty decent job at manipulation, seeking admiration and validation while exploiting others for their own gain. Understanding the covert narcissist requires keen observation and a discerning eye.
For those who are closely related to a covert narcissist can be a baffling experience. Their behaviors are subtle and calculative in nature that are designed to maintain control and superiority. Sooner or later, you’ll find yourself caught in their web of emotional manipulation, feeling drained and questioning your own worth at times.
It Isn’t What It Seems
Figuring out whether someone is simply an introvert or has covert narcissistic traits can be quite a tough nut to crack. It takes keen observation and analysis to unravel the truth. However, by keeping an eye out for specific signs, we can start to get a sense of whether those hidden narcissistic tendencies are lurking underneath. It’s worth noting that if someone exhibits these traits, there’s a good chance they’re leaning toward the narcissistic side.
- People are in constant need of admiration from those around them
- These individuals believe they are inherently deserving of special treatment, privileges, and recognition, often without having earned them.
- Self-absorbed and prioritize their own needs and desires above those of others.
- They often fantasize about themselves achieving greatness, commanding admiration, and adoration from others.
- They employ subtle tactics, such as emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and covert control, to exploit those around them.
- They have an extremely fragile sense of self-esteem and any form of criticism, even constructive feedback, is perceived as a personal attack.
- Despite their outward humility, they harbor deep-seated resentment and jealousy towards those who succeed or receive recognition.
- An innate ability to present themselves in an appealing and charismatic manner, especially during initial interactions.
- Rather than openly confronting or addressing conflicts, they resort to subtle acts of resistance, such as sarcasm, backhanded compliments, or subtle sabotage.
- Unable to confront their own flaws or take responsibility for their actions, they blame those around them.
- Their self-centered nature and constant need for admiration make it difficult for them to truly connect with others on an emotional level.
- Invading someone’s privacy, dismissing others’ feelings, or imposing their own agenda, covert narcissists tend to cross boundaries without hesitation.
It’s actually quite common for people to display some narcissistic tendencies every now and then. But hey, here’s the thing. If you start noticing more than seven signs, it could be a red flag for a serious case of narcissistic personality disorder. So, keep an eye out and take it seriously if you see multiple signs piling up.
Seek Help Now!
If you suspect that someone you’re close to might be showing signs of narcissistic personality disorder, it’s crucial to address it early on with the help of a mental health specialist in a controlled and supportive setting. Research has shown that taking action in the early stages can make a big difference in managing this condition.
To learn more about the available treatment options and to schedule appointments with our therapists, feel free to reach out to us.
At North America Behavioral Health Services, we offer online tools and guidance to help you overcome the influence of the narcissist within.
